Feminism killed chivalry, let’s get that tidbit out of the way first. It wasn’t even because feminists disliked chivalry, they very much rely on it even if they won’t admit it. Men simply stopped getting any benefit from being chivalrous and thus it died. But chivalry had a great purpose and therefore is ready for a return. It simply eased social interaction between men and women, and gave both men and women benefits they could find from each other. For women, it helped them navigate everyday things and gave them some protection in a hostile world and for men it acknowledged them and rewarded them for their efforts. But this second part, the part about the things men got from it, ceased to be. So men abandoned it. But it could certainly return pending a few tweaks in overall female demeanour.
Chivalry died because the benefits men were supposed to get from it went away. You see, men like being acknowledged for their efforts. Chivalry is kind of like a trade between men and women. Men will do things like offer protection, courtesies, and perhaps some spoils to known and unknown women alike. But in return, women thank, praise, or in some other way reward men for this. In this way, things turn out evenly.
When chivalry is a part of the social code, it guides social interaction. Men have a well known role to follow, and women do as well. No awkwardness ensues. It is not only a lubricant that greases the wheels of social interaction, but it provides some of the necessities each gender needs in life.
But when feminism became popular, the male haters decided it was no longer part of the social code to in any way acknowledge or thank men. What this leads to, since chivalry was not entirely deposed, is that men are sort of like a butler class to women. They serve and support, but it is not expected that they be perceived as equals or receive any social benefit for their service.
In practice, this means that women feel entitled to men’s things for no reason at all other than that they are women. So for example, rather than a woman thanking a man, and perhaps returning some small talk for giving up his space on a train, a woman simply takes the seat and does not acknowledge him in anyway, and yes I have not only received this treatment but I have witnessed it. Or women will simply cut in a queue because they feel they can get away with it and then they pretend they did nothing wrong. Or they subtly expect someone will open the big heavy door for them but then storm through it as if it were opened automatically as soon as someone opens it for them.
Let’s face it, women aren’t as strong and sturdy as men, and don’t have the same ability to stay balanced. They know this because they experience it when they try to navigate their way through the actually harsh environments of both country and city alike. I have seen women tear every tendon in their knee from simply slightly misjudging the depth of a curb. I have also seen women lose balance from slight nudges. Not to mention, they can’t keep the same pace as men when walking and they know it. Lastly, can you blame them for being slightly uncomfortable in densely crowded areas surrounded by strange men?
Women definitely benefit from chivalry, as could men. Life is actually easier for men and women alike with chivalry. But it is gone now. Let’s be clear that chivalry is not about men ranking themselves beneath women, it is more of a trade. So, if women want it back, they need to buck up and have the decency to respect and observe men for being chivalrous.
It is mostly youngish women that lack social graces. Older women are usually happy when a gentleman helps them in some way.